5 Minutes of Fabulous: How Setbacks Can Set You Up for Success and Satisfaction
Good Morning my sweet friend,
It’s been quite a while since I’ve written to you and I’ve missed you with all my heart and soul.
If we were sitting across from one another on my emerald green sofa in my living room snuggled up under the softest mink blanket together, I’d tell you that I feel like I lost my voice. I’d also tell you that I’ve been beating myself up for being distracted, fearful, and second guessing my ability. I’d share how even now I wonder if I’ve been letting my ego run my life and that I feel like a fraud for wanting to teach confidence and leadership when I often feel insecure too. I also would tell you that I appreciate your friendship, patience and compassion and that I’m hopeful that we can pick up right where we left off.
Beauty, grace and inspiration are all around us 24/7 and we have the choice to stop, breathe, notice it, and take it in. This happened to me recently when I stumbled across an article in the New York Times Business section about how science is now supporting that our setbacks can actually result in long term success. In other words, when we feel as though we’ve failed it’s really just a jumping off point to come back stronger than we’ve ever been before.
Without setbacks, perceived failures, mistakes, misunderstandings, and fuckups, how can we become a better version of ourselves? What if we can accept our failures and grow from them in order to create a completely different track for our lives and our careers?
In the world of self-help, spirituality, and personal growth there is a tidal wave’s worth of forced positivity. But what if we started to look at and talk more about our failures and setbacks as a tool for deeper, authentic growth? Maybe our discomfort around what brings us pain, sadness, and embarrassment may be the exact thing that opens the door to something special that is beyond our imagination- success that is truly meant for us.
Dr. Wang (one of the researchers on the study about setbacks) says, “If you fail and you manage to still be here, give yourself a high-five.”
When have you faced a personal or career setback you bounced back from? Share with me by responding to this email! If you want to geek out you can dig in more on the study published in the journal Nature Communications. The New York Times piece can be found here
Looking forward to hearing from you and connecting more.
Love you always & sending you a virtual high-five!