5 Minutes of Fabulous: You Deserve This!
I cry all the time. I cry because I’m happy. I cry because I allow myself to feel. I give myself permission to feel my heart break, to feel scared, to feel compassion.
This week, the location of my latest sob fest took place in my car on my commute to my office. I was listening to Suze Orman and BTW if you haven’t gotten on the Suze train yet, I highly recommend that you do and that you check out her site.
Suze was interviewing a group of women who survived physical, verbal, and financial domestic abuse. My mascara started to run down my cheeks not just because my heart ached for these women, but because in that moment, I felt the purest form of empathy for my own mother.
I grew up in a home where my mother was physically, emotionally and financially abused. I always knew that my mother had money and impeccable fiscal responsibility before she got married. And in the end, she left the relationship with not a penny to her name, ruined credit due to a bankruptcy, the clothes on her back, and two kids she had to care for.
While stuck in traffic on the 405 freeway, I realized that both my parents did the best they could with the knowledge that they had at the time. And instead of holding them responsible for all my pain and hurt (which I often tend to do), I felt deeply for them. Especially, my mother.
She’s a survivor, been through hell and back, and yet, owns her home, has impeccable credit, is extremely generous with her family and friends, and still has a sense of humor. She’s powerful and still has no clue how much she’s worth and what she truly deserves.
In an effort to make sure my mother’s struggle and pain doesn’t go in vain, I want to remind YOU of what you deserve. Right here and right now.
You deserve love. Deep, safe, tender, and affectionate love.
You deserve to be supported. By your friends, your team at work, your therapist, your coach, your significant other.
You deserve to feel financially powerful. To know where your money is going. To be bold enough to ask the question about the difference between a 401K and a Roth IRA. To pay down your debts and also know how worthy you are of spending your money on things that make you feel good.
You deserve to achieve and maintain your perfect weight. To eat what you crave. To feel good in your body. To move your body in a way that feels kind and therapeutic. To walk away from any table feeling vibrant and sexy.
You deserve peace. Quiet and calm. Moments just for you. Time to read a book, take a bath, and to have restful sleep.
You deserve pleasure. Fun, epic make out sessions, a night of dancing, a sleepover with your girlfriends, travel, adventures, 80-minute massages, watching a sunset, floating in a pool with the sun shining on your face, and laughing so hard you pee a little.
I’ve always believed that I didn’t deserve shit and hard work was the only path to deserving. Well, that’s a false belief.
Deserving means to be worthy of being treated in a particular way. Can we all promise to remember that we are all worthy of goodness? While we’re at it, let’s remind our mothers too.
I dedicate this post to my mother. I dedicate this post to all my friends who are mothers. And lastly to my friend, Amanda, whose mother is no longer on this plane, but who’s sparkle, worth, and deserving can always be felt.