5 Minutes of Fabulous: The person you really need to go on a date with
Good morning Darling,
Hope your week has been positive and productive!
I recently attended a lecture on relationships and how they are a spiritual practice and oh man, did I learn so much! The teacher at the event was Tracy McMillan, a relationship expert, who I recently discovered on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday.
At the event, I learned about how our relationships and how they trigger us can be our greatest spiritual teachers.
The one learning that resonated with me most was the concept that we expect the person we date or marry to make us feel sexy and interesting.
Doesn’t sound like the worst thing to expect out of a relationship, right?
We expect someone else us to light us up and make us feel all the things that we want to feel when the truth is, my love, that all the interesting and all the sexy is already inside of us.
Interesting and sexy is not brought to us by another person.
When I allowed myself to marinate on that, I decided that the person I really needed to go on a date with this week was me!
I wanted to figure out how exactly I am already interesting and sexy.
So, I took myself out for dinner and movie and I sipped a cocktail and had a conversation with myself (via my journal).
I asked, “How can I be more interesting to myself?” and “How I can be sexy just for me?”
Some of my answers included trying new things like EMDR therapy or reading a new book. Other answers included belly dancing and applying beautiful oils to my body.
I want to challenge you to ask yourself these questions too. Ultimately, no one you ever date or marry can make you feel sexy, interesting, or fabulous forever especially if you don’t feel that way about yourself first!
How can you be more interesting to you? How can you be sexier just for you? Are you willing to take yourself out on a date? If so, what would you do and where would you go?
If you want to dig in more on Tracy’s work you can check out her fabulous piece in HuffPo here.
If you want to dig even deeper on this, I want to remind you that I offer private coaching in-person and over the phone. I accept clients based on a waitlist and I’m currently offering FREE consultation calls for anyone who’s interested in learning more about working with me. You can schedule your call with me NOW- click here.
Can’t wait to hear from you!