5 Minutes of Fabulous: How dancing on stage with a drag queen taught me a very important lesson
Hey there good-lookin’!!
Are you a people pleaser? I certainly am. I love to host people, take care of them, and make them feel good. On top of all that, I’ve also noticed how much I care about what other people think of me. What I’ve noticed is that all this focusing on how other’s might feel about me makes me feel really shitty about myself. I get all in my head, feel anxious, neurotic, and when I focus on what other’s think, my experiences always suffer.
Do you ever notice that we let our thoughts run wild, trying to predict what other people think of us, and then make up stories based on these assumptions? Does this make you feel good?
I recently invited a few of my friends out to something called “Drag Brunch”. Imagine an over the top drag musical review show with comedy, sass, and lots of color.
It was the first time we were all attending this specific show and one friend in particular had never even seen a drag show before. Going into our fun outing, I started to worry about my friend. I couldn’t help but wonder, “What if she doesn’t like it? What if I bring her to an event that she is offended by? Will she think I’m insensitive to her needs?”
It was in this moment that I decided to go a different direction. Instead of focusing on my friend’s need and if she was having fun, I challenged myself to focus solely on my own experience and my own fun.
Once I made the decision to focus on myself and having as much fun as I can, I began to feel free. I felt lighter. I really enjoyed myself!!!
At the drag show, I focused on my love of the music. I savored sipping champagne with my friends, laughing at the drag queen who wore no shoes and told the funniest jokes. I danced in my chair, sang along to the songs, and bathed in my own joy.
Just as I was really finding my fun groove, the drag queen version of Selena, the Latin singer, came dancing and lip syncing my way. She must have felt how much I was enjoying myself because all of sudden she was taking me by the hand and bringing me on stage to dance with her!
Let me tell you, looking in the eyes of a drag queen and singing and dancing together was blissful and fabulous! My friends were cackling and made sure to capture every moment with video. When I got back to my seat, I couldn’t help but feel vindicated because I knew that when we have fun, others have fun. We feel happiness, we can give happiness.
I continue to challenge myself to focus on my own experiences and to ask myself often, “how can I make this more fun just for me?” I want to challenge you to do the same!
Try focusing on your own fun today and remember that you are not responsible for another person’s fun, just your own!
I’d love to hear how it goes! Please feel free to simply reply to this email and share with me!
Sending you all my love always!