5 Minutes of Fabulous: Are we dying before we're dead?
Yasss, honey! You better wake the fuck up today, doll face!
Wake up because you are ALIVE.
Over 151,000 people die every day and I can bet all the money in the world that those 151,000 folks wish that they could wiggle their toes, feel the warmth of their bed, or feel the sweetness of a hug.
These are all things that you can do right now. You lucky duck, you!
I would also bet all the money in the world that any soul without a body would do anything to inhabit a body again. Even if that body is 20 pounds overweight, has cellulite on its ass, and rocks frizzy hair.
Which begs me to ask the question, are we dying before we’re dead?
We postpone happiness.
I’ll be happy when I lose 10 pounds. Everything will be better when I get a dog. My life will feel fulfilling when I find my partner. We’ve all said it.
Everything will be fabulous when…
Babes, happiness is not something you postpone, it’s something that you can design right now. You’ve heard it many times and I’ll say it again for you, happiness is an inside job. What is one thing that’s making you happy right now?
We give our power away.
Maya Angelou said, “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” If you have energy vampires in your life, it may be time for you evaluate who you want to spend your time with. With that, please know that no one can make you feel any type of way. We often blame others for making us feel unworthy, unattractive, or unwanted. Baby boo, do not give your power away so easily. You have the ability to feel exactly how you want to feel. If someone triggers discomfort and insecurity within you, take it as an opportunity to dive deeper into your own soul. Get curious about yourself and your feelings and take them as an intuitive warning sign against toxic people. You have the power, darling!
We abandon our bodies.
We do it all the time. We float out of our bodies and reside in our heads. How do you think we end up eating the entire bag of chips or bingeing an entire season of “Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee “on Netflix, or scrolling on our phones for an hour while sitting on the toilet? We take our bods and our time for granted. Land in your body right now. Wiggle your fingers and toes and know how lucky you are to do both.
How can we be more ALIVE? Here are a few actionable things that you can do today and every god damn day.
Design yo’ life.
In a world where most merely exist, maybe we can be the brave souls that truly live! Maybe we can be the queens and kings that create our own fun, color, pleasure, and radiance. I wrote an entire post about a ritual to help you proactively design your own life here.
There is nothing sexier or more exciting than connecting with others. I’ve written about this a lot recently and I stand by the fact that being present and engaged is when we can express true love. Leaning-in, being curious, and being enraptured in the moment is a sure-fire way to be truly alive. What do you have going on the rest of the day? Think about an opportunity for you to get deep, ask questions, and make the person you are with feel like they are the only one that exists in this world.
Let pride be yo’ guide.
Take pride in your body no matter your shape, weight, or size. Wear clothes that make you feel gorgeous. Wear those shoes that you’ve been saving for a special occasion. Today is a special fucking occasion- you are alive, and you are ready to inhabit your body. Move and shake. Shimmy your titties and shake your booty. Experiment with feeling your feet planted on the floor. Savor a moment of feeling grounded. Notice your arms and hands and how much they help you in every area of your life. Be proud that you are here.
My favorite rapper, Jay-Z, once said, “I’m not afraid of dying. I’m afraid of not trying.” How can you try today? How can you really live instead of merely existing?
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