5 Minutes of Fabulous: Playing the Waiting Game
Today let's tawk about playing the waiting game. You know those times when you've waited on test results from your doctor? Or when you're waiting on a text back from your crush to set up a date? Or waiting on that fabulous job offer? Or on your acceptance to your dream school?
Waiting is a bitch of a game and I'm really not great at it. But recently, I was put in a situation where I was playing the waiting game for about eight weeks. And wait, I did.
I'm not saying that I waited gracefully, but I did take the opportunity to sit with my discomfort. Sometimes that meant ranting and raving to my friends or my boyfriend. Other times, I practiced reciting affirmations and listened to 101 power thoughts to keep my wandering mind positive and abundant.
Sometimes I got angry, I would throw a fit, I stomped around, and I even cried when I felt like my inner critic would get the best of me. And all along in the process, I accepted the shitty feelings of doubt and fear and I practiced exceptional self-compassion and trust.
Below are a couple of things I did that really helped me through the eight week waiting game. My hope is that the next time you are in the waiting vortex that you may feel more at ease knowing that you're not alone.
I let myself off the hook. I admitted to myself that I am a work in progress and I'm still figuring my shit out. It's ok to not be a zen goddess when you're uncomfortable. I decided to accept my suffering wholeheartedly.
Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety. This quote is from "A Course in Miracles" and usually I would consider this type of quote a bunch of bullshit. But what it's telling us is that when we find ourselves impatient about something, it's really because we don't have trust in ourselves or the outcome. So I sat with that and I so desperately wanted to wait without anxiety. What I came to realize is that the decision I was waiting on means abso-fucking-lutely nothing about me. And that really nothing outside of me matters, because no decision has the power to take away the love, radiance, and fabulous within me.
Journaling. During my long waiting game I found it really difficult to meditate. I realized that writing came much easier to me. I had so many thoughts and feelings and began most mornings by writing everything on my mind in my journal. It was incredibly freeing and was a great exercise in checking in with myself during this very uncomfortable time.
I danced my tushy off. I had moments of intense nervousness and anxiety and during those times I would dance out my excess energy. I put on Gloria Estefan's "Conga" or Katy Perry's "Roar" and danced around and threw my arms around myself. I gave myself a hug and acknowledged that what I was going through was hard.
I got by with a little help from my friends. Connecting with my friends made the waiting game so much more fun. Many nights were spent out at dinner with lots of cocktails, laughs, and venting. My friends cheered me on, made me laugh, and always followed-up with thoughtful text messages to check in. When in doubt, get together with your girlfriends!
What are you waiting on right now? That text from the dude you're dating? Are you waiting on getting into that awesome graduate program? Or maybe you're waiting on that call to find out if you got that stunning apartment that fits perfectly into your budget? Are you waiting on getting pregnant?
We're all waiting on something and at any given time you may find that you're living in a state of limbo. But here's the thing, my sweet loves, limbo can 100% feel like hell if you allow it to. Who knows, maybe if we make the choice to let go of our negative self-talk, have faith in ourselves, and trust in the universe, we may find that we end up dancing through a club called "Hell". At least there won't be a line that you have to wait in to get in.
Sending you all my love and you won't even have to wait for it!