5 Minutes of Fabulous: Design Your Life
Happy New Year!
The beginning of the year is a magical time filled with fresh energy and so much hope. I love these good vibes because they reinforce my enthusiasm about being the designer of my life. My days and weeks used to feel really drab- filled with tons of calls, meetings, and dreaded appointments. I used to come home and do the "Carrie Bradshaw Bullshit Move" see below.
I decided that I wanted my life to be filled with radiance, fun, appointments and dates that make me shimmy my boobies and sing "Hell YAAASSSS!!!" So in an effort to perhaps inspire you to become the designer of your life, your schedule, your weeks, and your days, I am sharing my weekly ritual with YOU!
Every Sunday I plan my week (and sometimes I do it with small batch tea in an even smaller cup like the image above). I check in with myself and ask, "What's up?" I continue the inner monologue with more questions: How you zooin? What are you in the mood for? Do I hate everyone this week and want to spend time alone? Do I want go out dancing or go for walks with friends? Do I feel like cooking? Or do I want to order in middle eastern chicken kabob every night, watch the "Real Housewives of Atlanta", take a bubble bath, and fall asleep by 9:30pm? Am I craving an adventure? Am I yearning for new people, new experiences, new recipes, new movies, music, or binge-worthy shows?
Sunday is my scared time to check in and do a "Hey, What's Up, Hello" with myself so that I don't have a meltdown mid-week. I bust out my journal, jot down notes about where I'm at mentally, and then I open up my calendar. Given my job and my enthusiasm for life, my calendar tends to look scary AF. Usually I am overbooked with back to back calls, meetings, lunches with clients, and the list goes on and on. This is my time to cancel or reschedule. That's right, I said it. I legit cancel the shit on my calendar that doesn't feel like a Hell YAAASSSS. As I always say, If it ain't a hell yes, it's a hell no!
As you know, we often need to do things that we don't always enjoy and when that happens, I bookend it! The bookend technique is easy peasy, baby! I schedule something fabulous before AND after the dreaded call, meeting, appointment, event, etc.
Here's an example of a planned bookend that I executed this week:
When looking at my calendar on Sunday, I noticed a one hour conference call in the middle of my morning on Wednesday. This conference call was right in the middle of a sea of reminders and deadlines for the same day. So I decided to put a reminder on my calendar to take 10 minutes prior to my conference call to grab a cappuccino with a sprinkle of cinnamon (my fav) to sip during the call. Post call, I scheduled time to sit outside, eat my lunch, and read the new Andy Cohen book (which is currently giving me LIFE). Wednesday started to look /feel real fabulous and I instantly felt the heaviness lift and felt optimism and excitement set in.
I do all of this so that my life feels pleasurable, fun, and easy. I also do it so that I can be a confident, sassy, boss Kween like Samantha Jones (see pic above).
Can you think of what's your light at the end of the tunnel for this upcoming week? What do you want your week to look like? Can you think about situations or appointments that you can mindfully bookend this week? What types of things do you want more of in your life?
In a world where so many just merely exist, do you want to feel empowered to LIVE?
You got this, babes! Be the designer of your life and report back! Please share with me and comment below.