Today I want to share a poem by Galway Kinnell that reminded me that we’re constantly surrounded by loveliness.
stands for all things,
even for those things that don't flower,
for everything flowers, from within, of self-blessing
though sometimes it is necessary
to reteach a thing its loveliness,
to put a hand on the brow
of the flower,
and retell it in words and in touch,
it is lovely
until it flowers again from within, of self-blessing"
When we notice the loveliness that already exists in our lives it creates more loveliness.
How can you reteach yourself your loveliness? For me, I reteach my body it’s loveliness by moving my body and dancing like a wild woman in the morning. How can you reteach your eyes, lips, tummies their loveliness? How can you show up with fresh perceptive today? Would you be willing to take 10 seconds to just look around for loveliness?
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Wishing you a very happy and healthy holiday season!
How was your Thanksgiving?
Did you go around the table and give thanks? Did you feel loved and filled with cozy, holiday cheer? Or was your Thanksgiving dinner filled with discomfort and perhaps heated, nonsensical political discussion? Did you feel icky because you were seated next to that family member that triggers you and gives you the creeps? (BTW simply pulling from my own life here)
In years’ past, I’ve always looked forward to the Thanksgiving meal almost like the way I look forward to a Beyoncé concert (excitement, full outfit preparation, and predicating exactly what would go down). Warm stuffing, the sweetness of cranberry sauce, and buttery pie crust filled not just my belly but, created a warm layer of protection between me and my loud, bickering family.
Food made me feel safe. It was my distraction from the discomfort. Can you relate?
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In the popular song, "Loyalty", the sultry goddess, Rihanna, sings “Tell me who you loyal to. Do it start with your woman or your man? Do it end with your family and friends? Or you’re loyal to yourself in advance?”
I don’t know about you, but at any given time in my life I’ve been loyal to negativity, to self-doubt, misery, suffering. I’ve been loyal to my past, my family’s struggles, to negative self-talk, and to what other people think of me. I’ve been loyal to eating my feelings, playing it safe, and hoping other people think I’m cool.
So, what about you? What are you loyal to?
Are you loyal to taking care of others before yourself? Are you loyal to sparkling positivity and sunshine for others? Are you loyal to your Instagram and distracting yourself with technology? Are you loyal to worrying about the future? Or reliving your past?
Regardless of where your loyalty lies, we can always change what we are loyal to.
Last night’s sunset wasn’t wrong. Snuggles aren’t wrong. Morning walks (especially in the flats of Beverly Hills) aren’t wrong.
Take a beat and ask yourself, what’s NOT wrong?
The brilliant Geneen Roth (the godmother of radical self-care and food psychology) says, “I’d tried versions of not fixing myself before, but always with the secret hope that not fixing myself would fix me.”
Does this resonate with you?
I’ll tell ya, it certainly resonates with me.
I just got back from an epic four-day trip to New Orleans to celebrate my boyfriend’s birthday. I unconsciously dropped all my “fix me” tools i.e. meditation, journaling, self-development books, vitamins, etc. I do believe that these tools are absolutely fabulous when we have no expectations and when we practice them because they feel good. But in the case of my trip, I dropped every traditional self-care technique I’d ever learned and traded it in for what felt good in t...