I recently attended a lecture on relationships and how they are a spiritual practice and oh man, did I learn so much! The teacher at the event was Tracy McMillan, a relationship expert, who I recently discovered on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday.
At the event, I learned about how our relationships and how they trigger us can be our greatest spiritual teachers.
The one learning that resonated with me most was the concept that we expect the person we date or marry to make us feel sexy and interesting.
Doesn’t sound like the worst thing to expect out of a relationship, right?
We expect someone else us to light us up and make us feel all the things that we want to feel when the truth is, my love, that all the interesting and all the sexy is already inside of us.
Interesting and sexy is not brought to us by another person.
When I allowed myself to marinate on that, I decided that the person I really needed to go on a date with...
Can all the perfectionists please stand up? I’m a recovering perfectionist. Even now, I notice my need for control and my expectation for perfection rearing its ugly head every now and again. Especially in my career.
The same is true for one of my private coaching clients. She’s an extremely talented, bright, and successful corporate executive that suffers deeply from self-imposed perfection in her work.
My client strives to show up perfectly while she’s on the job and especially when her boss, team members, and colleagues ask her questions in meetings. When this happens, she feels as though she has to have an answer right away. This self-expectation creates stress, insecurity, overwhelm, and negativity on top of stumbling though half-baked answers.
Have you ever noticed that when you’re in a meeting and questions are directed your way that you feel you have to answer right away?
Or when your boss asks you a question you feel like you have t...